Having your period can be rough, but not having it is no fun either: Whether caused by hormonal changes associated with giving birth, breastfeeding, perimenopause and menopause, reproductive cancers, taking the pill, or even just garden-variety stress, many women find themselves with (incredibly common) problems that no one ever told them about.

Do you ever find that you have sudden, uncontrollable urges to urinate (that are not due to a urinary tract infection) or that you often wake up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom? Or worse — do you tend to leak a little bit of pee when exercising, coughing, or laughing?

It has happened during a Pony Sweat dance aerobics routine and when I’ve had to deadlift my toddler. Sometimes, it happens simply upon standing after many hours of being hunched over my computer. The “it” of which I speak is leakage.